Is my dog being naughty or anxious?

You come home after a long day and find chewed shoes, scratched doors, or puddles on the floor. It’s frustrating (maybe even heartbreaking) to think your dog is “acting out” while you’re gone. But here’s the truth: dogs showing these behaviours aren’t being naughty. They’re often scared or simply haven’t yet learned how to stay calm when left alone. Once we understand that, we can start supporting them rather than blaming them.

Why It’s Not About “Bad Behavior”

When dogs feel distressed or unprepared for being alone, they don’t have the skills to handle it. They might bark, chew, pace, or try to escape and not because they’re stubborn, but because they’re struggling. From the outside, these behaviours can look like “disobedience.” But for your dog, they’re often a sign of overwhelm, not defiance.

Signs Your Dog May Be Struggling When Left Alone

While every dog is different, you might notice some of these behaviours:

• Vocalising:  barking, whining, or howling after you leave

• Destructive behaviour: chewing doors, windows, or furniture

• Pacing or restlessness: often caught on camera when you’re away

• Accidents indoors: even if they’re otherwise house-trained

• Escape attempts: scratching at doors or windows

• Physical signs of stress: drooling, panting, or refusing food

These behaviours usually appear when your dog is alone or anticipating being left.

You’re Not Alone and Neither Is Your Dog ❤️

If your dog struggles when left alone, you’re far from the only one. Many dogs find being home alone difficult, and countless families are working through the same challenges right now.

The good news? With the right, gradual training plan, most dogs learn to feel safe, relaxed, and confident when left by themselves and their humans can relax too.

That’s exactly what I help people achieve. My 4- and 8-week online training packages are designed to guide you step by step, tailoring the process to your dog’s unique needs and your lifestyle.

📌 Want to learn more?

Explore my separation anxiety packages.

Alternatively, if you’d like to discuss it further first, you can book a free 15-minute chat with me.

Together, we’ll examine what’s happening and determine the best way to support your dog.

Key Takeaway

Your dog isn’t “being naughty.” They might be scared. They might not have the skills yet. Either way, with patience, kindness, and a clear training plan, things can get better for both of you.